your joy and pleasure matter
Hi, I’m Ez,
(they/them), Registered Psychotherapist, Facilitator
Like many of you, my journey to find comfort in my own skin, gender, and sexuality hasn’t been straightforward—or really, straight in any way.
Becoming a therapist was never the plan, but listening to my own quiet truths happily led me here. I became the kind of therapist I once needed. I’ve learned the path is easier—and more fun—with company. Whether you’re exploring pleasure in your body, sex, or gender, I’ll pack a few snacks, bring some maps, and a good flashlight—and we’ll follow the compass of your curiosity together.
I’ve lived many angles of life: from a small island to big cities, across working- and middle-class worlds. I’ve known chronic illness and being able-bodied. I’ve walked roads of monogamy and polyamory. Parenthood has been one of my greatest teachers. These contrasts shape my creative, eclectic approach. I’m comfortable with complexity and drawn to what creates wholeness —especially how the body connects us to ourselves, each other, and the natural world.
As a neurodivergent, non-binary trans person who came out later in life, I know the weight of masking and invisibility—and the joy and liberation of authenticity. My work is trauma-informed, kink-affirming, and grounded in anti-oppressive, feminist, and harm-reduction values. Therapy must address the systems that shape us if it’s to truly support healing and liberation.
I’m a calm anchor, a playful spark—gentle and direct as needed. I believe good therapy, like a good life, is about expanding into ease while being with it all: the hard feelings, complexity, paradoxes, and absurdity of human life, right alongside the joys of connection, laughter, and celebration.
One thing I’ve learned: more is possible than we think.
I’m curious what might be possible for you.
I help people to…
Come Home to their Body
understand their nervous system and build ease, safety, and connection
heal body-based shame from body image struggles or gender dysphoria
reconnect with their body as a source of wisdom, pleasure, and presence
Explore Identity Without Shame
navigate gender with freedom and self-trust
explore attraction, orientation, and sexuality on their own terms
let go of pressure and honour their own evolving truths
Find Pleasure and Voice
discover what brings pleasure—glimmers, fantasies, turn-ons, and body cues
feel more choice in naming desires and setting clear, confident boundaries
grow erotic confidence, explore kink, and expand sexual expression
Work Through Challenges with Care
navigate differences in desire, identity, or interests within relationships
ease sexual anxiety, discomfort, or non-medical issues with climax, pain, or erections
Reclaim Joy and Liberation!
unlearn harmful norms and internalized shame
centre pleasure that affirms queer, trans, ace, and non-normative experiences
Who I Work Best With
You’re creative and curious—always learning, always wondering. You like exploring the big questions, even when there aren’t easy answers.
You want more than worksheets or quick fixes. You’re ready for real insight and transformation. You’ve done therapy before, you’ve got tools, but something’s still missing. You want to go deeper—into your body, into wholeness.
You’re starting to explore what a friendlier, more joyful relationship with your body might feel like. Maybe you’ve lived mostly in your head, and now you’re craving a new kind of embodiment.
You’re drawn to the connection between breath, body, voice, and sound. Singing might already feel like a resource—and you want to bring that into your healing.
You’re shifting away from heteronormative expectations and into queer belonging, especially later in life. You might be questioning if you're ace or finding pride in your ace identity—and looking to reconnect with pleasure on your own terms.
You’re neurodivergent and want sex and gender affirming therapy that welcomes you as you are —accepting, exploring what pleasure works for you and your experience
Trainings I draw from
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Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education
Core Course 1, 2022-23
Core Course 2, 2025
Studies currently ongoing
A anti-oppression body-based professional certification program I am currently training in that supports people of all genders in connecting with their sensual and erotic selves through breath, movement, touch, awareness practices.
Note: I do not provide touch based servicesEmotionally Integrated Voice Teacher Training
taught by Fides Krucker, 2023-25
Independent Study, ongoing
A program that has taught me to support friendly connection with the body and that helps people process emotion through breath, yawning and voice.Regular Confidential Sex Therapy Group Supervision
2019-ongoing
A space that supports ongoing growth, ethical practice, creativity and helps me provide thoughtful, well-supported care to our work together.Optimal Sexual Experiences Training
taught by Peggy Kleinplatz, 2021
A training based on research into what makes sex fulfilling, exciting and meaningful - helping me support people to think beyond the narrow normative scripts of what makes good sex.Emotion Focused Therapy, Sex as a Safe Adventure
2021
Grounded in attachment theory, this approach helps us understand how past emotional experiences shape your responses in intimacy—so you can move toward connection, safety, and authenticity in sex and relationships.
Note: Course builds on courses already completed, including EFT Externship, Core Skills, Attachment Injury Repair Model courses - see relationship therapy education section for detailsIntensive Sex Therapy Training Program
University of Guelph, 2019
A training in sex therapy focused on relationship and sex therapy principles, theory, research and practical intervention skills.Esther Perel, Sessions Program &
The State of Affairs: A New Clinical Approach to Infidelity program
2018-19
Esther Perel explores complex questions around sex, intimacy, and relationships through dialogue with leading therapists—broadening how I approach relational and sexual challenges in therapy.Sexual Attitudes Reassessment
2019
A deep, process-oriented training where I explored my own values, biases, and personal history around sex and sexuality—so I can recognize what’s mine, stay grounded in our work, and see you more clearly.
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Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Level I:
Affect Dysregulation, Survival Defences, and Traumatic Memory
2016
An in-depth, body-based trauma training that helps me support clients in tracking and transforming the somatic patterns of trauma. This includes using gentle interventions to work with nervous system activation, emotional processing, and fragmented self-experience—restoring a more grounded and cohesive sense of self.Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Level II:
Emotional Processing, Meaning Making, and Attachment Repair
2016-17
A comprehensive training that helps me support clients in healing the long-term impacts of early adversity, attachment wounds, transgenerational and systemic oppression—including anxiety, depression, hypervigilance, chronic tension, and addictions—by addressing the somatic, emotional, and cognitive patterns that shaped their self-perception and relationships.The Trauma of Money
2025
This training helps me support clients in healing money-related shame, scarcity fears, and financial overwhelm by addressing how trauma impacts our relationship with money—offering tools to build a greater sense of safety, clarity, and self-trust around finances.
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Emotion Focused Therapy Externship
2019
Grounded in attachment theory, this training helps me support you in understanding how past emotional experiences shape your relationships today—so you can build deeper, more secure connections.Emotion Focused Therapy Core Skills
2019
This advanced training deepens my ability to support you in working through emotional blocks, attachment wounds, and relational conflict—so you can feel more secure, expressive, and connected in your intimate relationships.Emotion Focused Therapy Attachment Injury Repair Model
2020
This focused training helps me guide couples or partners through healing deep relational injuries—especially those tied to betrayal, abandonment, or ruptures in trust—so they can rebuild connection and emotional safety together.
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Gestalt Institute of Toronto
2006-12
Gestalt Therapy is the foundation of how I work—I trained in it for 5 years, followed by over 4 years of supervised clinical practice.
It supports you in becoming more present and connected to yourself, others, and the moment. Instead of analyzing from a distance, we explore together in real time—using creative experiments, parts dialogues, and body-based awareness like posture, gesture, and voice. You’ll learn to notice what’s happening emotionally, physically, and relationally, so you can access more choice, connection, and vitality—even in places shaped by past pain or adaptation.
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Regular Confidential Gender Focused Group Supervision
2022-23
A space that supports ongoing growth, ethical practice, creativity and helps me provide thoughtful, well-supported care to our work together that is specific to gender.CAMH ECHO Trans and Gender Diverse Health Care Program
Course 1, 2019
Course 2 - Advanced Topics 2019
Training in trauma-informed, gender-affirming care—including hormones, surgeries, family support, racialized and neurodivergent experiences—to offer knowledgeable, nuanced, affirming care throughout your transition.
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University of Toronto Certificate programs:
2013-17Applied Mindfulness Meditation Foundations
This 5 course certificate program deepened my ability to support clients using mindfulness-based approaches, integrating neuroscience, contemplative philosophy, and embodied awareness to help build self-regulation, presence, and emotional resilience.Mindfulness Meditation Specialist: Clinical Psychotherapy
This 4 course certificate program enhanced my ability to integrate mindfulness and meditation into therapy, supporting clients in building presence, self-awareness, and emotional regulation through evidence-based meditative and clinical practices.
