Pelvic Pain & Erotic Possibility
Join Kai Cheng Thom, Ezra Cake, and Lilin Thibodeau for an evening of embodied conversation and somatic inquiry into the unique experiences of pelvic pain and erotic possibility for queer and trans* people.
Through guided somatic exploration, engaging dialogue, and expressive arts practices—including creative body and genital mapping—we’ll get curious about our relationships with our pelvises, explore different possibilities for support, and make room for the possibility of more pleasure.
You are welcome to choose your own level of participation—to join in, observe or pass. Everything is clothed and self-directed, and no one will be asked to share anything they don’t want to share.
the details:
when: Sunday, October 4, 6PM-9PM
where: Come As You Are, 464 College St. Toronto, ON,
Come As You Are is an accessible space with a barrier-free entrance, an automatic door, and a wheelchair-accessible bathroom located on the main floor. For further accommodation please contact lilin@comeasyouare.com.
tickets: $30.00 suggested ticket price. Get your tickets here! No one will be turned away for lack of funds.
your facilitators
Kai Cheng Thom
Kai Cheng Thom, MSW, MSc, Qualified Mediator, Certified Professional Jungian Life Coach, and Certified Somatic Sex Educator, is a coach, process facilitator, and mediator whose work focuses on the intersections of trauma healing, Transformative Justice, and social change. A noted theorist and practitioner in the field of conflict resolution, Kai Cheng has made significant contributions towards the integration and application of conflict transformation, crisis intervention, and body-based trauma healing methods in an activist context through her writing and teaching.
Ezra Cake
Ezra Cake (they/them) is a trauma-informed Registered Psychotherapist with 14 years in practice, offering sex therapy, gender affirming care, and support for the sometimes complicated business of living in a body. They work primarily with queer, trans and gender diverse people. Much of Ez’s work begins with something that feels unwanted: a body that changes the plan, desire that doesn’t behave, or a way of protecting oneself that also gets in the way. Ez is curious about what happens when the stories we tell about ourselves meet what our bodies have learned—and what becomes possible when both receive our care.
Lilin Thibodeau
Lilin (she/they) is a trauma-informed bodyworker, intimacy practitioner, and co-owner of the award winning, feminist sex shop Come As You Are Co-operative. Nearing professional certification with the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education, Lilin blends her extensive background in health and social services into her private practice. She brings seven years of experience as a former registered midwife and over fifteen years of supporting survivors of gender-based violence in social service agencies. Centered on the core values of safety, agency, sacred sexuality, and joy, her practice operates at the intersection of birth work and sex work, drawing on the somatic wisdom of both lineages. Lilin specializes in pleasure centered, client-led bodywork, focusing on scar tissue remediation, genital de-armouring, and somatic support for postpartum and gender-affirming surgery recovery.